tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27318902.post1643174682853815153..comments2021-09-12T21:04:17.093-04:00Comments on Elsie and Joe Deluxe: deep-seated WHAT?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27318902.post-74923940815184584752008-02-08T14:10:00.000-05:002008-02-08T14:10:00.000-05:00It sounds like it's relative. If you are a working...It sounds like it's relative. If you are a working mom and someone compliments you on your clean house, it's probably easy to be proud for having it so together. But if you are a stay-at-home mom, that same compliment might feel like a backhanded insult, that your clean house is at the expense of more 'worthwhile' activities, that your clean house might be the pinnacle of your accomplishments.<BRAmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10213816309097897516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27318902.post-83393170836415459062008-02-07T19:28:00.000-05:002008-02-07T19:28:00.000-05:00i'm really interested in the feminist part of this...i'm really interested in the feminist part of this discussion - to me, being a feminist, and what the feminist movement was for, is all about choice. having the choice to be who we want to be as womyn, not fitting inside anyone's box. their are so many books on this topic, be it about SAHM vs. working mothers, having children vs having a career, etc. and i always roll my eyes at this books/Ipohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02071918975278584467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27318902.post-19701259104691422612008-02-07T17:54:00.000-05:002008-02-07T17:54:00.000-05:00I think it is my sense that a "real feminist" woul...I think it is my sense that a "real feminist" wouldn't concern herself with dust and dishes that lead me to protest when others comment on my house. This is also why I keep coming back to this topic, but almost sheepishly. Somehow, we're not supposed to have to deal with this stuff. <BR/><BR/>Cheryl Mendelson, who wrote Home Comforts, talks in her introduction about being a "closet homemaker" forLizabeth Cainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01285701124252639728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27318902.post-50352544096497050152008-02-07T15:00:00.000-05:002008-02-07T15:00:00.000-05:00Your mother is laughing and your father is on the ...Your mother is laughing and your father is on the floor -- but he managed to fall without hurting himself, so all is well.Granna Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10298063158081735209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27318902.post-83597381618717395862008-02-07T14:35:00.000-05:002008-02-07T14:35:00.000-05:00it's all perspective & comparisons, main one being...it's all perspective & comparisons, main one being between tidy and clean. i TIDY every day; make beds, dishes, put things away and sweep/vacuum whole house, which is very needed here because we have 3 large dogs, 4 cats, 1 husband who works construction and we live on a farm (hence dirt and nature coming in all the time). i CLEAN every week or every other - deep clean kitchen, bathroom and Ipohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02071918975278584467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27318902.post-31181981052703799192008-02-07T12:50:00.000-05:002008-02-07T12:50:00.000-05:00I wish I had a clean house. I wish I had a cleanin...I wish I had a clean house. I wish I had a cleaning routine. I wish I felt guilty because I cleaned too much. I live awash in cat hair and dirty cultery in the sink and undusted light fixtures and I don't invite people over because it would mean a week of housework before I was comfortable. If my mother ever comes to visit, it will be a six month project to get the house ready. My daughter likes Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27318902.post-14199725922589191442008-02-07T12:37:00.000-05:002008-02-07T12:37:00.000-05:00I like my house to be picked up, but the only time...I like my house to be picked up, but the only time I clean a toilet or dust a shelf is when overnight guests or coming (which means approx once a month). I used to feel bad about that until I read another mom who pointed out that when her kids think back on their childhoods, they won't remember whether or not the toilet was shiny. That gives me all the psychological permission I need to get down Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10213816309097897516noreply@blogger.com